This post has been a long time coming. I want to start by saying, I am very lucky. I am blessed with a husband who stays home with our children, a mother who helps out and pitches in all the time and an aunt who adores babies and takes our boy once a week. I have come to the conclusion that being parents of two is the quickest and surest way to destroy one's marriage. Why? Why you innocently ask? Perhaps you don't have two children or perhaps you like chaos, but either way, it's a recipe for disaster.
Shouldn't two people be able to care for two teensy weensy people? Shouldn't two parents be able to handle their own kids? Aren't there people out there with four, five, even ten kids? Man, not us...no way...I don't like this needy stage enough.
So, consequently our childcare situation is like that Venn diagram. Sometimes we have one, sometimes we have the other, sometimes we have both. The red area is when we have both. It is those times that truly tax our marriage. We tend to only have both kids on the weekend. I feel like a parent of divorce...and the we haven't even separated...yet.
But seriously, it does get better everyday. Everyday the kids are less difficult. The baby is more engaged and less needy. Coming are the glory days of parenthood. Right? No false sense of security here though, nope...just two kids. I have new appreciation for families who choose to have only children. It's really not a bad idea at all...NOT AT ALL.
4 comments:
LMAO! I think Mark and I are fine as long as we aren't dealing with all the kids at once together. I do just fine without him around interfering in my routine.
I guess I sort of prefer the needy stage because all the increasing independance going on around my house these days is making me horrible depressed.
I am getting very very nervous.
I don't know. I kind of like having the two of them now. I was scared to death before Cate was born wondering how I'd manage to love her like I do Emma. Now, I can't imagine not having both.
I feel like staying home helps immensely with my marriage and taking care of the girls. It's hard work, but I love love love it.
How can I be the first to comment on the beautiful Venn diagram you drew? I LOVE IT! I need to start diagramming out a strategy for multiple children...since I have mere days left. You know I'm thinking of you Kiki!
Lorraine
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